- The Washington Times - Tuesday, February 20, 2001

Books

• "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25 Year Landmark Study," by Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis and Sandra Blakeslee, Hyperion, 2000. Mrs. Wallerstein profiles seven children of divorce 25 years after she first started interviewing them and writing about them. She shows the struggles they go through as adults in trying to form and maintain their own marriages.

• "Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope With Divorce and Its Aftermath," by Vicky Lansky, Book Peddlers, 1996. The author, a single parent and columnist for Family Circle, covers almost every aspect of divorce, including how to break the news to children and suggestions for further reading.

• "Don't Divorce Us: Kids' Advice to Divorcing Parents," by Rita Sommers-Flanagan, John Sommers-Flanagan and Chelsea Elander, American Counseling Association, 2000. The authors interviewed children of divorce and collected the youngsters' thoughts and suggestions, as well as those of divorce counselors.

• "Voices of Children of Divorce," by David Royko, St. Martin's Griffin, 1999. The author, son of the late syndicated columnist Mike Royko, has been clinical director of the Cook County (Ill.) Marriage and Family Counseling Service since 1994.

Associations

• Children of Separation and Divorce Center, 2000 Century Plaza, Suite 121, Columbia, Md. 21044, and 932 Hungerford Drive, Suite 37A, Rockville, Md. 20850. One of the largest divorce counseling centers in the country, COSD works with families and children in divorce and separation cases.

• American Coalition for Fathers and Children, 22365 El Toro Road, Lake Forest, Calif. 92630. Phone: 800/978-3237. This nonprofit organization advocates shared parenting and seeks to keep divorcing couples from going through the court system.

On line

• Lee Borden, a divorce mediator in Birmingham, Ala., has put together a comprehensive Web site (www.divorceinfo.com) that has plenty of helpful material and links for anybody going through a divorce, including links specifically for children.

• Sara Gable, a professor in the University of Missouri's Human Development and Family Studies Department, has written an article (http://muextension.missouri.edu/xplor/hesguide/humanrel/gh6600.htm) on helping children understand divorce. The article includes a handy chart detailing each developmental age in children's lives, what children understand about divorce at that stage, how they think and feel, and what parents can do for them.

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