Relatively close

Michael and Marilyn Spiro did not want to spend their golden years on the Pennsylvania Turnpike. The highway was where they found themselves often after Mr. Spiro, an economic professor, retired from the University of Pittsburgh in 1999. Around the same time, their grown daughters, Juliet McClellan of Reston and Andra Davis of Severna Park, each were starting families of their own. The Spiros wanted to see their children and grandchildren, but were weary of the travel involved.

So in 2002, the couple decided to make Silver Spring their retirement home. The large Leisure World facility there had everything they were looking for, Mr. Spiro says. The location was just about halfway between their daughters’ neighborhoods. Its proximity to Washington meant that the Spiros, who are passionate about classical music, could enjoy the District’s many cultural offerings.

“The girls urged us to make the move,” says Mr. Spiro, 71. “We have an excellent relationship. I never doubted for a moment they would welcome it.”

Mrs. McClellan says she was surprised — but thrilled — when her parents announced they were leaving Pittsburgh after more than 30 years there. Mrs. Spiro died suddenly late last year, and both father and daughter say living closer together has been a great source of comfort for everyone.

“I really haven’t seen a downside,” says Mrs. McClellan, a human resources professional and mother of Andrew, 5, and Gabrielle, 2. “I did not grow up with grandparents close by, so I think it is wonderful for my kids. I’m glad he is close by.”

Moving closer to grown children and grandchildren is a whole new option for retirees, says Elinor Ginzler, manager for independent living and long-term care for AARP. AARP does not keep official statistics on this category, but Ms. Ginzler says she can see it happening all over the country as far-flung relatives are choosing to relocate to be near one another after they don’t need to be near their jobs anymore.

“First, people decide they don’t want to live in their house anymore,” Ms. Ginzler says. “So then they think, ‘Well, where should we live?’ There is that old cliche about moving South, but that is not an automatic anymore.”

In fact, the Washington area has many draws for retirees, Ms. Ginzler says. The history, culture and dynamics of the nation’s capital can be a big draw — whether the retirees are looking for a contrast to their small-town life or seeking to continue being a patron of restaurants and museums in a new city.

While housing in the metropolitan area can be quite expensive, many other aspects don’t have to be, Ms. Ginzler says.

“Here in Washington, you can take the grandchildren to the Smithsonian or the National Zoo, and it is free,” she says. “You might only have to pay for snacks. Those things end up being a lot cheaper than in other cities.”

Thinking it over

Before plunking down a deposit on a condo, retirees and their grown children should all sit down and talk about it, says Dale Atkins, a New York psychologist and author of the book, “I’m OK, You’re My Parents: How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works.”

“A lot of times, the parents are making this decision out of their own needs,” Ms. Atkins says. “They want to be in the vicinity of their grandchildren. They want to know as they get older and infirm that they will be closer to their children. Those are realistic ideas in their own mind, but they may not have discussed it with their children.”

Meanwhile, the adult children may have expectations of their own, Ms. Atkins says. One might think about a built-in baby sitter and forget old feuds or that the retirees never liked her husband.

“These kinds of things are rarely discussed beforehand,” Ms. Atkins says. “You may only see your parents at holidays now, and that is very different.”

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