Last week, a lesbian filed suit against eHarmony.com because the online dating service does not fix up homosexual couples.
It is ugly to watch how a group that has been asking straight Americans for tolerance and understanding can turn on a dime, as members seek to punish and shut down those with heterodox opinions.
In the Bay Area, it is no secret. Here, tolerance is a one-way street. Equal rights for some mean fewer rights for others.
As her San Francisco attorney Jeremy Pasternak told me, Miss Carlson was not trolling for a lawsuit, but “legitimately looking for love.” When Miss Carlson saw she could only sign on as “a man seeking a woman” or “a woman seeking a man,” she contacted the company in the hope eHarmony would add a new category: a woman seeking a woman.
Having been rejected, Miss Carlson could have decided to go to a dating site that accommodates lesbians. That would have been the tolerant thing to do.
Instead, she filed a lawsuit that charges that eHarmony violates California law by not serving individuals “based solely on their sexual orientation.”
Miss Carlson’s suit, it should be noted, follows a 2006 suit filed by a lawyer because eHarmony, which boasts that an average of 90 eHarmony members marry each day, rejected him because he was married. But separated.
Married and litigious — what a catch, girls.
Or as a company spokesman noted, “To be criticized for ensuring that we’re doing the best job possible is most hurtful to our members.”
When I asked why Miss Carlson didn’t simply go to another dating service, Mr. Pasternak evoked the image of Rosa Parks, noting that “nearly every step in civil rights law, you could have said the same thing.”
In this case, Mr. Pasternak argued, eHarmony’s “matchmaking services” make it different than other services. He almost sounded like an ad as he claimed that other services do not compare to eHarmony, because, “There is a big difference between the sites that allow the customers to self-select who they are looking for” and a site that makes the decision “to exclude a minority group.”
Mark Brooks, spokesman for the homosexual online matchmaking service myPartnerPerfect.com, said of eHarmony: “I think they’re having a bit of an unfair time of it. I think it’s their right to have a niche focus, but they’ve not quite said the right thing, and their underlying tone has riled people up.”
Some believe eHarmony is a target because founder Neil Warren is proud of his Christian faith. Such is the new McCarthyism.