NEW YORK — Therapists, we’ve long known, have been among the biggest fans of “The Sopranos.”
They were so pleased with the credible therapy scenes between Tony Soprano, pop culture’s most famous mobster-patient, and the appealing Dr. Jennifer Melfi, played by Lorraine Bracco, that the American Psychoanalytical Association once gave the show and Miss Bracco an award.
Professionally speaking, however, therapists could only scratch their heads at the latest developments on HBO’s hit drama, which aired its penultimate episode last weekend.
Not only therapists were distressed. Some patients were furious when they showed up for appointments this week, one New York psychoanalyst said.
“You wouldn’t believe the outrage I am hearing,” said Dr. Arnold Richards, who had missed the episode but was filled in by his patients. He was talking about a serious ethical lapse by Elliot Kupferberg, played by Peter Bogdanovich, at a dinner party full of therapists. Across the crowded table, the character callously revealed — over Melfi’s protests — the identity of her star patient.
“Mind-boggling,” pronounced Dr. Richards. “In 60 years in the business, I do not recall ever being told the name of a patient in treatment.”
Colleagues agreed. “That dinner party was just very upsetting to me,” said Dr. Joseph Annibali, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst in McLean. “What he did was outrageous. He’s never had control of himself, and this just fits in with that.”
Why did Kupferberg commit such a sin? He didn’t think Melfi should be treating Soprano, whom he considered a manipulative psychopath. Be that as it may, his disclosure was “a very egregious ethical violation,” said Dr. Jan Van Schaik, chairman of the ethics committee at the Wisconsin Psychoanalytic Institute.
“A patient needs to know that what gets said in the doctor’s office stays there,” said Dr. Van Schaik, who has never witnessed such a violation. “I’ve been at gatherings where people talk about patients in a more disguised form. Even that can be inappropriate. A good therapist should do the best they can to protect the anonymity of patients.”
It’s a shame, Dr. Van Schaik added, because “prior to Sunday’s episode, 'The Sopranos' was the best portrayal in the popular media of a therapist-patient relationship.” Dr. Annibali agreed: “We’re so used to seeing therapists presented as incompetent hacks. Or as people who are more disturbed than their patients.”
What has been nice about Melfi, the Virginia therapist explained, is that she’s a complex and caring figure — she’s not ideal, but she tries to help Tony even as she struggles with the idea of treating him.
That is, until this most recent episode, when she … dumped him.
“We’re making progress,” Tony protested, genuinely shocked. “It’s been seven years.” However, Melfi had reluctantly read a study, brought to her attention by Kupferberg, claiming that therapy doesn’t help sociopaths but instead further enables their bad behavior by sharpening their manipulative skills. Demoralized, guilt-ridden and almost speechless with hostility, Melfi literally showed Tony the door.
A tidbit that had some therapists buzzing this week: It turns out that the study is a real one — albeit hardly new — from authors Samuel Yochelson and Stanton Samenow, psychiatrists specializing in the criminal mind. However, the way the fictional Melfi shoved aside her patient was anything but real, therapists said.View Entire Story
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