Economy a drag on marriages

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By Gabriella Boston

An empty wallet does not a happy couple make. Historically, domestic violence and divorce rates tend to move upward as the economy moves downward.

While it's too early to tell whether that's the case in this recession - and whether more couples are seeing therapists and/or using anti-depressant medication - couples therapists nationwide report that the recession has become a major source of dissonance for couples.

”I see a definite increase in stress related to the recession,” says Linda Carter, a psychologist in private practice in New York City and professor in psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine. “It causes an intensification of the problems that already exist.”

For example, Ms. Carter says, a husband who is irritated by his wife's spendthrift habits in good times may see that irritation exacerbated in bad times when money is extra tight. That can lead to a heated argument and - voila - blame is hurled back and forth like a game of toxic catch.

How to put an end to this particular type of blame game?

Context is key, says Peter Fehrenbach, a psychologist in private practice in Seattle.

“Acknowledging that job losses and diminishing savings are common problems rather than someone's fault helps,” Mr. Fehrenbach says. “You try to objectify the problem.”

Mr. Fehrenbach says money - or the lack thereof - has become a major source of stress for up to half of the couples he sees.

They're not alone.

A recent Gallup-Healthways poll of more than 350,000 people shows that stress related to the bad economy increased significantly in the last quarter of 2008. The poll showed that whenever the stock market went down late last fall, respondents experienced increased levels of stress.