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A: We find that there’s a general sense that people believe they can just walk away from this material when they need to or when they want to. But while they’ve been in college, there’s been no impetus for them to stop. So, the key is, when they have to stop, what will they do?

I believe there is a percentage of people who will be able to stop. Another percentage - the majority - won’t want to stop and will continue to view it in secret.

And then there are those who will develop some real problematic, unwanted sexual behaviors. They won’t be able to stop even when they want to, and they will become fully sexually addicted - that’s the estimated 6 percent to 8 percent of the general population who is sexually addicted. Most of these people will have invested most of their time with Internet pornography, which we refer to as the “crack cocaine of sexual addiction” because it’s just not that easy to stop.

Q: You were just in Eastern and Central Europe talking to college students. Europe is much more liberal about pornography and sexual mores. What did you find there?

A: Europe is a few years further down the road than the U.S., as far as their mainstreaming of pornography into the general culture, the mainstreaming of these “faulty beliefs,” if you will.

In general, in the former Eastern Bloc countries I visited, I found that many women tend to dress much more provocatively than women here. The men are much more objectifying, and the women have just accepted it. It’s like the worst nightmare of the early feminist movement - where women are totally sexualized, they are only valued based on their sexuality (body shape and size and physicality).

Q: Did the European students differ from American students in their opinions about pornography?

A: I had a lot of women come up and tell me they’re in such messed-up relationships. They said the culture basically reinforces the guys’ views and the faulty belief systems of porn, which is that it’s all about pleasing a man sexually.

So European students are just as paralyzed in their ability to experience healthy intimacy in relationships as the students over here. But over there, there’s more of a feeling of hopelessness, more of a sense of just giving in.

I just find it amazing that American college students continue to bring up this [argument] that “Porn is more accepted in Europe” and “They have more liberated sexual views, so we’re just puritanistic; what’s wrong with us” and “We should be more like Europe, that they have less sexual violence and crime than we do” - claims that I’ve never heard a single student back up with evidence.

And I say to them, “You don’t want to be more like Europe” when it comes to relationships.