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Ms. Vicki, he is not listening to reason. I told my husband I will always be there to support him and that he has no reason to be suspicious. I’ve been asking him to pray, and we have been going to Mass more. God knows I don’t know what I would do if my husband ended up arrested or worse. He is sad and looking depressed. I’m trying to help him snap out of it.

I’ve never been deployed or anything, but I totally understand how he feels. I’m not trying to turn in my husband or anything, but what should I do?

- AWOL Not the Answer

Dear Answer,

Numerous service members report believing their luck is running out with each deployment. Many also think like this every time they are downrange or are beyond the “wire” or off base. It’s my job to help correct that “faulty” or “magical” thinking, even though we know the reality of combat.

Even though these feelings are real and normal, they also are symptoms of combat stress. I think your husband definitely has some of the symptoms, as well as symptoms of depression and anxiety, all of which are totally understandable. I applaud your efforts for being supportive and for trying to challenge his faulty thinking.

There is much help out there for your husband; he must be connected to those services. The one thing I want to encourage you to do is make a medical appointment for him with his primary care physician to discuss some of these symptoms. This is a good place to start. From that point, the physician will refer him to other services - behavioral health, psychiatry services, etc. - but I like to start with the primary care physician to rule out any other medical conditions.

This is a tough time for your husband. Even though his parents both have illnesses, I think they should be given the opportunity to share their insights and be of support to their son. You won’t be “snitching” if you involve them; their help is needed right now. You also can solicit the help of your priest for guidance and support.

My last suggestion is to search online for other means of support. For example, visit www.military .com and www.militaryonesource .com, which offer a lot of information and resources for service members’ families. There is still time to build a wellness plan of support for you and your husband. Congratulations on your pregnancy and please keep in touch.

Vicki Johnson is a licensed clinical social worker, military spouse and mother of three. Her column runs in The Washington Times on Thursdays and Sundays. Contact her at dearmsvicki @yahoo.com.