Culture Challenge of the Week: Homosexual Marriage
Two weeks ago, New York's legislature imposed its radical redefinition of marriage on state residents: Homosexual marriages now have legal approval and will take place by month's end.
The law affirms the messages of homosexual advocates, who say the sexual union of homosexual pairs is as natural and moral as that of a married husband and wife and that children don't need both a mom and a dad.
The damage doesn't stop there, however. From the homosexual perspective, two lesbians, two homosexual men or, indeed, any combination of transgendered adults can parent as effectively as a family headed by a mom and dad (a view the Obama administration supports).
Forget the fact that children naturally long for both a dad and a mom. Ignore the reality that the youngest and most vulnerable among us have developmental needs that can only be met by a parent of the opposite gender. In the world of homosexual activists, social engineers and Hollywood, children's needs never come first. On the contrary, children are, in fact, disposable when they are found to be "inconvenient."
And marriage, redefined to include homosexuals, is open to further redefinition to suit the homosexual lifestyle. Just a week after the New York law passed, the New York Times ran a piece promoting the practice of "flexible" monogamy, or infidelity with permission - a common practice in "committed" homosexual relationships. The thesis? It "works" for the homosexual community, so heterosexuals should try it, too.
The cultural elites may break out the champagne for their homosexual friends, but their celebration raises a toast to a sinking ship. Societies that legitimize substitutes for traditional marriage (homosexual marriage, civil unions, cohabitation) inevitably witness the decline of authentic marriage. And as marriage declines, family structures weaken, producing cracks in the bedrock of a stable society.
The result? Children suffer. The research is clear: Children raised in homes without a married mom and dad do worse on nearly every measure of child well-being. They are more likely to be truant, struggle in school, get arrested or use drugs or alcohol. They suffer inwardly, too.
Author Elizabeth Marquardt writes movingly of the spiritual and emotional pain of children raised in fatherless homes and conceived by sperm donors (the only option for lesbian couples). Their pain persists far into adulthood, affecting their own adult relationships.
How to Save Your Family: Teach Your Children the Truth About Marriage
Homosexual advocates promote their lies about marriage and sexuality through entertainment, media and the public schools, and their propaganda has hit the mark with many young people. Seventy percent of young adults aged 18 to 34 support legalizing homosexual marriage.
Be unequivocal with your children. This is not about "fairness" or "equality." It's about morality, what is best for future generations and for the strength, indeed even the survival, of civil society.
Homosexual behavior is wrong. Homosexual relationships are not equivalent to heterosexual marriages, no matter what the New York legislature says.
The Family Research Council provides a compelling summary that documents the societal harms of same-sex marriage. Read it and discuss it with your teens and college-age children in particular. They (and you) need a clear sense of the harms that flow from homosexual marriage.
Get involved. Two organizations, the National Organization for Marriage, and Family Talk with Dr. James Dobson, lead the battle to protect traditional marriage. Get the facts and learn the arguments at www.MyFamilyTalk.com that help others see the truth on this issue. Donate, pray and work on campaigns that protect traditional marriage.
Finally, speak up. Family and friends are the strongest influencers of opinion. Don't be silent when others express support for the homosexual lifestyle or homosexual unions. Unless we are willing to stand up for marriage, our children may grow up in a society slowly crumbling under the weight of its own perversity.
• Rebecca Hagelin can be reached at rebecca@howtosave yourfamily.com.