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Andrew Curtin said it happened at least twice at his Boston-area high school in the past year. Angry about a breakup, a boy ended up at the school nurse's office with a broken hand after punching a locker or a wall.
"You don't think about when you see two people walking down the hall, 'Are they in a bad relationship or is it good?' " the 17-year-old Waltham High School senior said.
He was among about 250 teenagers doing a lot of thinking about healthy relationships at a seminar at Simmons College last month. The dating advice was coming from an unlikely source: city government officials.
Boston's Public Health Commission partnered with local social service agencies to put on its third annual Break-Up Summit for teens as part of a $1 million, four-year grant from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation.
Nationwide, the $18 million program, known as Start Strong, is aimed at teaching teens in 11 cities to prevent dating violence. Counselors at the Boston summit focused on teaching teens to end relationships in ways that don't spark negative behavior such as cheating, public humiliation or worse.
Nicole Daley, who heads Boston's Start Strong program, said a bad teenage relationship can lead to problems including depression, low self-esteem, falling academic grades and even unwanted pregnancies in cases where one partner tries to manipulate the other. There's also the risk of a physically dangerous confrontation.
"In popular media, cheating is seen as an excuse for violence," Ms. Daley said.
Recent studies by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention showed about 10 percent of students nationwide reported a boyfriend or girlfriend had physically hurt them in the past year. CDC statistics also showed that among adults who were victims of rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner, 15 percent of men and 22 percent of women first experienced some kind of partner violence when they were between 11 and 17 years old.
Teens who were part of the seminar described a dating scene in which social media can make ending relationships even more emotionally fraught. Many said that changing one's Facebook status back to "single" was the worst way to break up with a significant other.
"The world knows before you do," said Cassie Desrochers, 17, another Waltham High senior.
"A relationship is personal. The whole world shouldn't know about it."
Esta Soler, president of Futures Without Violence, the nonprofit that helped design the Start Strong program, said social media also complicate teen relationships because a bad rumor can travel far in seconds.
"When I was growing up we had a telephone, and we didn't have voicemail, and it took a lot of work to spread it," she said.
Ms. Soler also said breakups always used to be in person, but that's not the case anymore.
At the seminar, teens talked about breaking up by sending a text message or being on the receiving end of one. They also spoke about fights they'd seen in their schools between students who were in competition for another student's affections or felt jilted after a relationship ended badly.
Counselors at the forum urged teens to communicate with partners about relationship boundaries, together defining whether they were "just texting," casually "hooking up," "friends with benefits," or in a monogamous relationship.
They also encouraged students to end relationships with face-to-face contact and to look for warning signs that ongoing relationships could turn abusive.
"Now I've got all the information," said West Roxbury High School sophomore Tyler Jones, who's training as a Start Strong peer leader. "I realize you've got to give your partner space. You don't need to be hugging up on them all day."
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