Newtown, Conn., trying to give children a sense of normalcy

NEWTOWN, Conn. (AP) — The children at the Sandy Hook Elementary School won’t be returning to classes for another week, but officials from the town, school district and local agencies are doing their best in the meantime to keep them occupied following a massacre at their school two weeks ago.

There have been class gatherings for pizza parties, field trips, toy giveaways and some organized play time.

The students have not attended school since a gunman killed 20 of their schoolmates and six adults on Dec. 14. They are slated to return to a different school on Jan. 3.

The Newtown Youth Academy, a nonprofit sports center, opened its doors to all kids in town at no cost shortly after the shooting. But from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. last week, the building’s turf field, basketball and tennis courts, and giant inflatable obstacle course were reserved just for Sandy Hook Elementary students.

There have been arts and crafts for the smaller kids, as well as face-paintings. Some celebrities, including two members of the Harlem Globetrotters and former University of Connecticut basketball star Tina Charles, also have stopped by to play with the children. UConn’s men’s basketball team was making a trip Thursday.

“The idea was to get them away from the house, the television and all the coverage of this tragedy and get them to a place where kids can just be kids,” said owner Peter D'Amico, a longtime youth coach in town.

On Thursday afternoon, school buses were loading up at the Youth Academy for a trip to Stamford and a larger complex, Chelsea Piers, which also has ice rinks and an indoor swimming pool, he said.

University of Connecticut psychologist Julian Ford, who spent time counseling in Newtown in the first days after the shooting, said it’s important for the grieving process to include an outlet that lets children know that while things will never be the same, it’s OK to enjoy life.

“They are all going to be thinking about what happened,” he said. “That, unfortunately, is inescapable. But this gives them a chance to say, ‘Life is carrying on.’ Nothing will be the same, but it’s also continuing in ways that it should be.”

He has encouraged parents to keep the kids involved in a normal holiday routine and deal with the tragedy as it comes up, rather than making it a focal point of their lives.

David Connors, who has 8-year-old triplets who attend Sandy Hook, said he and his wife have made play dates with their friends, brought the kids to see family for the holidays, and participated in the class get-togethers and recreation events.

“That’s been, I think, helpful at least in the short term just to kind of keep them doing things, keep them seeing their friends and being nearby and talking to family,” Mr. Connors said.

Todd Wood of Newtown has five children, the youngest age 4 and the oldest in college. His children’s piano teacher lost a child in the shooting, and the family knows other victims as well.

He has found that each child has reacted differently to the shootings. He said he is not making the shooting the center of his family’s life but is not pretending it didn’t happen, either.

“We did Christmas; we had our lights here; we’ve tried to make things as normal as possible,” he said. “But we also went down to see the memorials. I don’t want to shield them from it. I want to let them grieve in their own way.”

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