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Apps, websites for lovelorn help them get over broken relationships
Question of the Day
You thought you found your one true love online, but now you’ve been dumped by text or defriended on Facebook without a peep of explanation. Hours of bad TV in your bathrobe haven’t helped. Your friends are tired of your whining.
Forget a pampering makeover to help heal your broken heart this Valentine's Day. Go for a “digital breakover” instead, using a growing number of tech tools to save you from yourself or to sob on a safe shoulder in the ether.
Online dating sites and apps for hooking up on the go are abundant. Only one of the Apple app store’s recent top 12 downloads for the iPhone was about something other than romantic love, but breakup tech hasn’t kept pace.
Melissa McGlone, 46, of Alexandria, turned to the Ex-App after a three-year relationship ended recently with an unceremonious text. After a weak moment or three of electronically stalking her dumper, she used the text, call and email blocker to hold his digits at bay until she could resist temptation on her own.
“I no longer humiliate myself by trying to contact him,” said Ms. McGlone, a divorced mother who was 18 years out of the dating scene when the two first met.
The free app took off last March with about 3,000 downloads in the first nine months. Unlike other blocking tools, the Ex-App also tracks the number of consecutive days spent not trying to ferret out a former love.
In New York, 28-year-old Amanda Green relied on the well-established Dear Old Love Tumblr blog after she was dumped on Independence Day 2009 a year into a relationship. The site for the lovelorn describes itself as an anonymous safe haven for “short notes to people we’ve loved (or at least liked). Requited or unrequited.” A selection of notes from the site later was turned into a book.
“It’s a refuge for those of us who know our friends are getting tired of listening to us, or those of us who don’t have a confidante at all,” said Ms. Green, who posted there regularly for a few months. “It’s also a reminder of how universal these feelings are.”
For Ms. Green, it was a place to let go. Hard.
“When I went to your apartment to get my things, I dipped your toothbrush in the toilet. I wasn’t gonna kiss you ever again anyway,” she poured out in one of the messages she left there.
“It’s a - perhaps unfortunately - true story,” Ms. Green said, “but I’m in a much better place now. I think I deal with this stuff better now. I’d like to think Dear Old Love has something to do with that.”
There’s also CheaterVille.com, a site full of alleged cheaters complete with mugshot-like photos and sometimes lengthy explanations of love deceptions. While the culprits are identified by name and town, those who post are anonymous.
And there’s NeverLikedItAnyway.com, where dumpees sell off their engagement rings, wedding gowns and other gifts from exes. A recent bargain of the week featured an anonymous teacher’s lynx fur jacket with a real-world price of $12,000 but a breakup asking price of $7,995. Transactions are private via direct message through the site.
The latest entrant is WotWentWrong.com, a brand new site for dumpees in search of feedback from their formers after a first date failed to produce a follow-up call or budding love died on the vine without explanation.
Registered users fill out detailed questionnaires covering what information they’re after (Was it my hair? The way I dressed?) and can customize a template letter to be sent through the site to an ex. The ex can respond with as much detail as he or she desires through the site, without contacting the sender directly.
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