Betsy Livingston is an unabashed supporter of Mitt Romney. She has met the Republican presidential nominee on a dozen occasions over the years at campaign events in Orange County, Calif., where she and her husband, Dan, are active in GOP politics.
But you won’t hear Mrs. Livingston bashing President Obama, and there’s a reason for that: She knows him, too. She met him after enrolling in the sixth grade at the Punahou School in Honolulu, where he also was a student. Barry Obama was the chubby kid who grew into a lanky jock, wrote funny entries in her yearbook and regularly greeted her in the hallway between classes.
They moved in “very different circles,” she recalled. “He wasn’t that involved with anything except basketball and sports, and I was in student government. He partied a lot, whereas I, as a practicing Mormon, did not, so we were on opposite sides of the spectrum.”
Even so, she considered him a friend. “He was always really nice to me. He knew my name; he said ‘hi’ to me,” Mrs. Livingston said. “He was pretty cool. He had a little bit of a swagger to him.”
Mrs. Livingston knew then what the rest of America has since learned about the president: He is a hard guy to know, but also a hard guy to dislike. He enters the Democratic National Convention this week with some of the worst economic indicators of any president since the Great Depression, yet polls consistently show him in at least a dead heat with Mr. Romney.
Americans may not be impressed with his job performance — an average of polls compiled by the political website RealClearPolitics shows his job-disapproval rating at 48.7 percent, compared with 47.7 percent who approve — but most voters do not outwardly detest him. His average favorability ranking during the same period, Aug. 13 to Aug. 26, comes in at 49 percent, compared with 45.4 percent who view him unfavorably.
Compare that with the left’s seething hatred of George W. Bush or the right’s outraged disgust with Bill Clinton a few years into their presidencies. The president’s likability may not be more important to most voters than his achievements or competence, but it’s close.
The ‘Cool Dad’
Mr. Obama instantly entered the history books in 2009 as the nation’s first black president, but it was only after Mr. Obama took office that many voters were able to fill in some of the blanks on his personality, tastes and foibles.
He sings a mean Al Green, but endured national ridicule for his taste in “mom jeans.” His rare and glancing references to racial controversy — think Harvard professor Henry Louis Gates and Florida teenager Trayvon Martin — can ignite ferocious cultural debates. He can be a trash-talker, whether on the pickup basketball court, skewering Donald Trump at a black-tie Washington dinner or taunting a roomful of Boston Red Sox supporters about a trade favorable to his Chicago White Sox.
He is, by all accounts, a devoted father and an equally devoted weekend golfer. Because he is not a natural schmoozer, his golf foursomes and his social outings tend to revolve around a small group of old friends and aides. He is not afraid to call out rapper Kanye West — twice — as a “jackass” and prefers cutting-edge cable fare such as HBO’s “The Wire” and Showtime’s “Homeland.” But in his 2009 appearance on “The View” — the first time a sitting president has appeared on the morning talk show — Mr. Obama confessed that he didn’t know who Snooki of MTV’s “Jersey Shore” was.
Hilary Busis, writing on Entertainment Weekly’s EW.com site, said the cool vibe Mr. Obama exuded when he took office has been dulled over the past four years.
“The American people are now better acquainted with the real Barack Obama — and it turns out that he’s not actually the political equivalent of Arthur Fonzarelli. (Or whoever the kids are into these days.) Instead, Obama is a textbook example of an archetype on the rise: the Cool Dad,” she wrote.
“As the name implies, Cool Dads aren’t like the painfully unhip parents who often pop up on TV. They listen to jazz, blues and unobjectionable hip-hop (Obama’s a fan of Miles Davis and Jay-Z), claim allegiance to classic films that have a bit of an edge (the president cites ‘One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest’ and ‘The Godfather Parts I and II’ as favorites), and keep in shape by playing real sports rather than huffing and puffing on an elliptical.”
But, she added, with their frumpy pants, moralizing streak and occasional cultural cluelessness, Cool Dads “are still dads at heart.”