NEW ORLEANS (AP) - Brendon Ayanbadejo has heard from many players who applaud his support of gay marriage _ some of them teammates, others from the opposing side of the line.
Then, just days before the biggest game of the year, he received a striking reminder of the macho attitudes that still prevail in the NFL.
The league is still a long way from embracing its first openly gay player.
Culliver apologized Thursday, maintaining that what he said during an interview with comedian Artie Lange during Super Bowl media day _ videotaped and posted on the Internet _ were not his true beliefs.
“That’s not what I feel in my heart,” the defensive back said.
But Ayanbadejo (EYN’-beh-day-joe), who stirred debate this season by backing a gay-rights amendment in his adopted state of Maryland, estimates that at least half the NFL’s players would agree with what Culliver said, at least privately.
Responding to a series of crude questions from Lange, Culliver said the 49ers didn’t have any gay players, and if they did those players should leave. “Can’t be with that sweet stuff,” he said, seemingly unaware that his comments would ever get back to San Francisco and the Bay Area, home to a large gay community.
“I’m sorry if I offended anyone. They were very ugly comments,” Culliver said. “Hopefully, I will learn and grow from this experience and this situation. I love San Francisco.”
Whether he was honestly expressing his true feelings or trying to limit the damage, the comments prompted plenty of discussion about a larger issue: Is the NFL _ or any major pro sport in the U.S. _ ready to accept a player who comes out?
Several retired athletes have acknowledged their homosexuality after their careers were over. But no one has revealed it while actually suiting up, no doubt mindful of the divisiveness it might cause in the locker room.
“I’d say 50 percent of the people (in the NFL) think like Culliver. I’d say 25 percent of the people think like me. And 25 percent of the people are religious. They don’t necessarily agree with all the things I agree with, but they’re accepting,” Ayanbadejo said. “So it’s a fight. It’s an uphill battle.”
For Ayanbadejo, taking a strong stand on heated issues is just part of his makeup. The 36-year-old grew up in Northern California _ less than an hour from the 49ers current training facility _ and learned at an early age from his family to treat all people with tolerance and respect. He remembers marveling at the skill of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis, then finding out later he was gay.
“I thought it was awesome he could go out there and do his thing,” Ayanbadejo said. “No matter who you are or what you’re doing, if you’re doing something you love, you should be able to do that and express who you are.”