CHICAGO (AP) - It started out a stunner: The Heisman Trophy runner-up had told heartbreaking stories about a dead girlfriend who didn’t exist. Then it became unreal: The All-American linebacker said he had been duped, and theirs was a relationship that existed only in phone calls and Internet chats.
The reaction was predictable: Unbelievable. Couldn’t happen.
People speculated he must be a straight-laced Mormon, naive and unfamiliar with modern-day dating hazards. Or he must be part of an elaborate hoax designed to bolster his image. Because no big-time college football player, beloved on campus and adored by millions, could have a girlfriend he’s never … actually … met.
Yet even people who really ought to know better say what Notre Dame’s Manti Te’o says happened to him has happened to them, and they believe it happens far more often than people care to admit.
“If we shake the tree, we would find hundreds of thousands of people falling out of the tree who are experiencing something like this,” said Robert Epstein, a senior research psychologist at the California-based American Institute for Behavioral Research and Technology.
It’s just human nature, Epstein said, something known formally by psychologists as “confirmation bias.” We watch the news that matches our political beliefs. We discount viewpoints we don’t like. We ignore good advice and miss red flags, so we can continue believing in something we want to be true.
In Epstein’s case, it was believing he’d made a real connection with an attractive Russian woman named Ivana he met online. In fact, she was nothing more than a computer bot someone had set up to respond to queries on an online dating site.
“A lot of people still make fun of me,” he said.
Today’s social networking sites, such as Facebook and Twitter, make it easy to “meet” someone without ever doing more than chatting online or exchanging emails. The same tools that allow for such casual contact also can be used by impostors to create intricate personas that exist only on the Internet.
All of it simply makes it that much easier to delude ourselves.
“After a generation of kids growing up with Facebook and decades of online life, you’d think we wouldn’t be so easily duped, but I think these people who do the duping are more inventive than people who use the technology,” said Steve Jones, a communications professor and online expert at the University of Illinois at Chicago.
It’s been happening since people first began mingling in chat rooms more than 20 years ago. In 2006, one mom in Missouri, Lori Drew, created a MySpace page for non-existent teenage boy so she could “romance” _ and strike back at _ a girl she thought was spreading rumors about her daughter. Humiliated, the targeted girl later killed herself.
“As far back as the 1980s, men were impersonating women, kids were pretending to be adults, and all kinds of relationships with non-existent or phony people flourished online,” says Paul Levinson, a professor of communication and media studies at Fordham University, who studies social media.
Those behind Te’o’s imaginary girlfriend, for instance, created more than one Twitter account for her and appear to have used photos lifted from a California woman’s Facebook page to make it look that much more real.View Entire Story
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