'Your papers, please' must never be heard in America
Independent voices from the TWT Communities
To the list of modern dating essentials — breath mints, a clean shirt, the ability to sit through a chick flick or comic book movie with minimal fuss — add the following: Do-it-yourself background checks.
"No one is doing anything illegal or in a trench coat hiding behind a bush with 'Pink Panther' music," she said. "It's about looking for the information that is already out there. … If you find out your partner is an alcoholic and gambles away all their money and you're OK with that, then go ahead. Just be aware of the situation you're getting into. Wouldn't you rather know?"
"It's imperative in today's dating world that you know what you're getting yourself into," Ms. Coder said. "You don't really know who you're dealing with when you meet them online — you might get an 80-year-old guy posing as a 25-year-old. That in itself poses a huge safety risk."