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Good-bye to a friend

By David Eldridge on June 25, 2008 into Fishwrap

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Today was a heartbreaker for quite a few of us here at The Washington Times. We learned early this morning that our friend and coworker Jerome Joseph "Jay" Votel lost his battle with cancer at the age of 52.

Jay, one of the most gentle and genuinely friendly souls here in the newsroom, was the dedicated editor of the newspaper's real estate homes section for years, but he also showcased his expertise and his passion in writing about music, which is how I came to know and treasure him.

Jay knew about high-lonesome music played on mandolins and fiddles, music with a little West Virginia dust on it, and music played around campfires and in jukejoints along two-lane blacktops. 

He and I sat alone a few weeks ago and he told me — clear of voice, full of courage — what he was facing and how he planned to fight for as much life as he could — not just for himself, but for his wife Nancy and for his children.

 

I was stunned, I told him: "Jay, I don't know what to say."

 

"What can you?" he smiled.

 

We spent the better part of the next hour talking about pickers, the new Alejandro Escovedo CD coming out and the lineup at the upcoming Kerrville Folk Music Festival in Texas — an annual pilgrimage that he feared he would not make this year.

 

Like all of our conversations, it had — thanks to Jay — a musical quality: a little melody captured in his soft Virginia accent and the joy he took in talking about bluegrass, or songwriters or gigs on the Eastern Shore.

 

It's a nice way to remember my friend. Jay, we will miss you.

 

— David Eldridge, digital communities editor, washingtontimes.com

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cbryant

Jay was a talented guitarist, an enthusiastic journalist and a dedicated family man. He will be sorely missed.
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mstainer

Jay was a gem of a friend. His untimely death is devastating to those who knew him and loved him. Jay and his family decided that in lieu of flowers, people can donate to a local charity that feeds the poor, So Others Might Eat (www.some.org). That doesn't surprise me that his last act is one that is charitable and loving. That's who he was. RIP my brother.
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CaryLee

As a free-lance writer for the Home Guide, I was mentored and given assignments by Jay. I had worked with him for 8 years. Over this time, he was the best editor I ever had, providing me with helpful feedback, and suggestions on improving my writing. I will miss him.
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amy2

I'm a freelancer who also had the pleasure of working with Jay on the Home Guide. When we were off deadline, we'd chat about music, a passion we shared in our respective bands. In fact I saw him play with Riff Raff at Bangkok Blues a few months back--turns out to have been the last time I would get to hang out with him and hear him sing and play. I'll miss our chats, Jay, and I already miss you terribly. I hope you are at peace.
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moynihan

He was a friend of mine He was a friend of mine Every time I think of him I just can't keep from cryin' 'Cause he was a friend of mine -- Traditional The world will have less color and light and music without my dear friend Jay. I only worked with him for a year in Annapolis, but then we stayed friends for almost 20. I will remember him as a happy man.
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tlcbid

I knew Jay as a fellow sportswriter in the Winchester area, as a fellow Boy Scout, who spent many a summer at Camp Rock Enon and as a classmate at Shepherd. He turned me to a lot of music that I might not have otherwise given a listen to. I last saw Jay when we took him and his wife Nancy to a Pat Metheny concert a few years ago at Lisner Auditorium. He had a true appreciation for anyone who was musically gifted. RIP my friend and every time I hear a picker, I'll be thinking of you. tlc
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cchappell

Jay was my favorite editor and I was shocked at his passing. I am a freelance writer who wrote articles for him in the Friday Home Guide for many years. I will definitely miss his advice, real estate chats and warm spirit.
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michele1

Jay and I have worked together on the Home Guide for nearly eight years and he has been a rock of support for me all this time. I'm not sure if I have ever known a kinder man. Always calm under pressure, appreciative of people and life. I loved hearing his stories about his daughters, his travels with Nancy and his love of music. I cannot begin to imagine working without him. I will miss our weekly chats, frequent emails and contact with such a warm and caring person.
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edwin1

Sad to discover such news, yet inspired by all these comments. God bless him and his family.
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