- The Washington Times - Sunday, June 22, 2008


Dear Marine: I’m heartbroken to hear this. I’m just as appalled as you are. However, you have got to act quickly to resolve this. Many people who have their identities stolen say it can take years to clear it up.

My advice is to visit your legal office on base immediately. You also should visit the Marine Corps Family Services at Henderson Hall in Arlington. If they cannot help you, I know they will direct you to the proper resource. The number is 703/614-7204.

I know you are hurt and angry about your relative’s actions, but please don’t do anything you will regret. I think it’s better that you not see him, especially since you are angry - and rightfully so. Please don’t waste your time assaulting him.

Thank you for all of your support to your country. Keep in touch and let me know how it goes.

Dear Husband: Your wife really needs to agree to some individual counseling. Being a victim of sexual abuse can stay with us for an eternity, but counseling can help heal the wounds. You need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and tell her that you love and support her, but you think it’s time she spoke with a professional counselor, a clinical social worker or a psychologist who specializes in healing sexual abuse. This is paramount - the professional must specialize in this area.

I’m not sure what military installation you are near, but check with the Social Work Service department or the Behavioral Health department for an appointment. You also could call Tricare or Military OneSource, as they will connect you with a counselor in your community.

Your wife really needs your love and support, so please don’t complicate things by having an affair.

m Vicki Johnson, a licensed clinical social worker, military spouse and mother of three, has been counseling service members and their families for 15 years. Her column, “Dear Ms. Vicki,” runs in The Washington Times Thursdays and Sundays. Contact her at dearmsvicki@yahoo.com.

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