After one journey to the market when I was 10, she said to me, "Every time we go to the store, I am so ashamed. I've got to get a job. I may not be home with you as much, but I'll be making my own money again, and I'll be in charge of my life. Remember. Tammy, never let yourself get into a situation where you have to rely on the government so you can live your life. It's not worth it. It's killing me."