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Dawn Friedman of Columbus, Ohio, is one of the parenting blog pioneers. Her blog, This Woman’s Work (www.thiswomanswork.com), has been online since January 2001. Ms. Friedman has written about her pregnancy losses, her career as a free-lance writer, home-schooling her son, Noah, and the adoption of her daughter, Madison, a year ago.

“It helps to have a plot,” Ms. Friedman says. “My hits were much higher leading up to Madison’s adoption.”

As on most blogs, Ms. Friedman has space for comments. She has heard criticism of adoption and home-schooling, but she also has made great connections with mothers who live nearby and prospective adoptive parents who live all over. She says she is surprised that some of the people with whom she has connected aren’t necessarily the type with whom she would bond in real time.

Ms. Kellogg says the same thing. Liberal politics are a popular topic on … And I Wasted All That Birth Control, but Ms. Kellogg recently polled her regular readers and found that many of them are quite conservative but like the blog because they enjoy her wit and honesty.

“That is one of the coolest things,” Ms. Kellogg says. “People of different backgrounds can come together. I’ve ended up becoming friends with right-wing, pro-life people.”

Ms. Kellogg’s pregnancy loss connected her recently with a Catholic home-schooling mother of three in Minnesota. That mom, also a blogger, made the painful decision to terminate her pregnancy after learning that the baby had severe birth defects that meant the baby couldn’t live. Ms. Kellogg was in a similar situation when, after losing one twin, trying to sustain the pregnancy with the surviving twin put her own life in danger.

“Connections like these are a testament to the amazing ability women have to overlook issues and help each other,” says Ms. Kellogg, a regular reader of about 100 blogs. “Infertility and parenting kind of rise above politics.”

People definitely are looking to make those personal connections, says Mary Chayko, assistant professor of sociology at the College of St. Elizabeth in Morristown, N.J. and author of the book “Connecting: How We Form Social Bonds and Communities in the Internet Age.”

Take a general feeling of isolation, the lack of time for deep conversation and the shifting identities that parenthood brings, and you have the blog phenomenon, she says.

“Keeping a blog enables you to reveal and express your humanity to a potentially infinite number of people,” she says. “Blogging can help you understand your changing identity. It makes sense as a creative outlet.”

Blogs also make sense in the age of reality TV, Ms. Chayko says. This is an era when people enjoy both eavesdropping and self-promotion. That is why someone will readily read a blog entry on the mundane details of life such as carpooling or ear infections.

“There is this curiosity about how other people are doing things,” Ms. Chayko says. “That is why talk shows and reality TV are so popular. We’ve also become more comfortable with public displays. The private individual who stays out of the spotlight is becoming somewhat rare.”

Dads blog, too

Dads have a voice in the blogging world as well. Ben MacNeil, author of the Trixie Update (www.trixieupdate.com), has logged every detail of his toddler daughter’s life — from minutes napped to diapers changed. Jay Allen, author of Zero Boss, (www.zeroboss.com) chronicles life with his four young children.

Laid-Off Dad (http://laidoffdad.typepad.com), a 40-year-old New York City man who only gives out his blogging name, has been writing about his life with his wife and preschool-age son for about two years. He says it gave him an outlet when he was between jobs after a layoff.

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