Mrs. Sandusky paid her husband’s bail, steadfastly declared his innocence and testified on the stand that she never saw or heard anything strange or suspicious during the years when her husband brought boys over for dinner and sleepovers in the basement.
Asked whether she could think of a reason why eight men would come forward to accuse her husband of molesting and raping them, Mrs. Sandusky’s answer was: “I have no idea. … I don’t know what it would be for.”
But the Sandusky household was divided in its members’ views of its patriarch. Adopted son Matt Sandusky said last week, before the former Penn State assistant football coach was convicted of nearly all charges associated with the molestation of 10 boys, that Sandusky also had sexually abused him.
How is it possible for a wife to live with a child molester for years, have the abuse going on in the home, and not know what was going on?
The answers, analysts say, lie in the complexities of human relationships, the existence of heartless psychopaths in people’s lives and the natural desire to not see things that do not make sense or that threaten one’s own life.
“I never suspected a thing,” said Darlene Ellison, who said she did not learn that her ex-husband led a pedophile organization until he was arrested.
“One, she didn’t know. Two, she didn’t want to know. Or three, she knew, but acknowledging it, or doing anything about it, would be so disruptive to her life that she chose not to,” he said.
It’s common for a spouse or family member to fall into the latter two categories, he said.
“They don’t go into rooms when they’re afraid of what might be going on. They don’t ask questions purposefully when they wonder about something because they don’t want to know,” Mr. Dion said. “Or they do know [something’s wrong], but they feel afraid that they can’t say anything” because the perpetrator has power and control over them; there’s an idea that “this is something you have to tolerate, this is part of the arrangement.”
Another scenario is that a spouse “just decides that anything I do will end badly for my family, for my kids, and so I’m just going to make a decision to ignore it.”
The victim said he went into the bathroom to take a shower, and Sandusky entered the bathroom and motioned to the boy to give him oral sex. But when Mrs. Sandusky asked, “Jerry, what are you doing in there?” the elder man leapt out of the room.View Entire Story
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Cheryl Wetzstein covers family and social issues as a national reporter for The Washington Times. She has been a reporter for three decades, working in New York City and Washington, D.C. Since joining The Washington Times in 1985, she has been a features writer, environmental and consumer affairs reporter, and assistant business editor. Beginning in 1994, Mrs. Wetzstein worked exclusively ...
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